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Physical and Sexual Violence

8 ways people exert power and control

Using coercion and threats

  • making and or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her

  • threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare

  • making her drop charges 

  • making her do illegal things 


Using intimidation

  • making her afraid by using looks actions gestures

  • smashing things 

  • destroying her property 

  • abusing pets 

  • displaying weapons


Using emotional abuse

  • putting her down 

  • making her feel bad about herself 

  • calling her names 

  • making her think she's crazy 

  • playing mind games 

  • humiliating her 

  • making her feel guilty


Using isolation

  • controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes 

  • limiting her outside involvement 

  • using jealousy to justify actions


Minimizing denying and blaming 

  • making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns seriously 

  • saying the abuse didn't happen 

  • shifting the responsibility for abusive behavior 

  • saying she caused it


Using children 

  • making her feel guilty about the children 

  • using the children to relay messages 

  • using visitation to harass her

  • threatening to take the children away 


Using male privilege 

  • treating her like a servant 

  • making all the big decisions 

  • acting like the ‘master’ of the castle 

  • being the one to define men's and women's roles


Using economic abuse 

  • preventing her from getting or keeping a job 

  • making her ask for money 

  • giving her an allowance 

  • taking her money 

  • not letting her know about or have access to family income 

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